About Babies in Bikinis

Okay boys & girls. 

We need to talk.  This is for all the haters blowing up Acacia Swimwear social media accounts every time a little sweet child is featured rocking a kini from the Honey swim line. You know who you are. You see a beautiful picture, get your panties in a bunch and put it upon yourself to throw some pretty nasty comments out there.  You are the one saying that a little crochet is goint to bring all the pedophiles to the yard.   

Yes you.  

Well, in my “real job” I’ve worked with sex offenders, and I can say that lycra and crochet does not instigate pedophilia, it is a lot more complicated than that.  

In fact, beyond publicly humiliating a child, leaving comments like these also opens the door for these twisted people to find way to justify speaking about and treating a child like a sexual object. 

Regardless if it is directed at a child or an adult, it is hate and harassment, and condones victim blaming and sexual violence. The fact that it happens to children on the regular is an absolute tragedy.  And its not just about bikinis. “Shorts too short.” “Hair too long.” “Clothes too tight.” “Shoes too tall.” “Too much mid-drift.” Let’s be clear that it is not the attire that prematurely sexualizes a female, it is the societal attitude, so it’s time we leave the clothes out of it.

But you know what, KiniMama always says that you don’t do better until you know better.  And hopefully by reading this, a few people will know better and do better.  It is time we stand up and speak up when we see this behavior online or even in person.  Wether it is a stranger on IG or a friend who doesn’t understand how their words promote the sexual objectification of young women.  It is on us to change this attitude. 

Somewhere over the rainbow… people will stop being assholes.

 Look at this child.  Look at her smile. 

Photocred of this gorgeous gal: @ashes_86 on IG.

 She is in her element. She looks proud, comfortable, confident. She is a natural beauty. She isfemenine. And happy.

Aren’t these qualities you would want to see shining out of your child?  It just so happens that she is wearing a high fashion Acacia Swimwear Teahupo’o Full Piece.  Maybe this has something to do with how pretty she feels, maybe it doesn’t.
Either way, Gorgeous.  

Photocred of this stunning beach babe: @seashelle87

 You know what I love about Hawaii? Everything.

But, I love that the kini is a necessary accessory. Because in Hawaii, every season is summer season.  And in the same way, every body is a bikini body. You don’t have to aspire to be a certain body type to feel comfortable and lovely in a bikini. I love going to beaches and resorts and seeing women who are 250+ lbs rocking their bikinis. They don’t give a shit and neither does anyone else. No judgements! It is part of our culture & lifestyle. In the same way, a child can either go: 

A. Naked

B. In a bikini  

C. In a full body flotation device teletubby looking outfit 

 No judgement! #whataconcept

There are many people who can take a lesson from the easy going Hawaiian lifestyle.  A bikini is not worn to be sexy, but comfortable. (And if you haven’t heard, nude beaches are also considers normal in many other countries.) 

You see, when it is muggy AF and you want as little clothing as possible, a kini comes in handy. And if it just so happens to come in designer fabric and styled for a flattering fit, ummm…. Yes, please.  And if you just so happen to be a a thirty-something sexy beast with stretchmarks like me? So be it!  

What is more offensive: kini covered bewbie or nekkie baby?

So the next time you look at a stunning picture of of a sweet child in a kini.  May you appreciate a snapshot of a child who is happy, healthy, learning to respect the ocean, making friends and enjoying the outdoors.

Photocred for this unbelievably adorable cutie: @enrinnuese on IG

 
I am hoping that this message reaches the right people. I am hoping that a few of you can learn a little more about how slut shaming/victim blaming works and adapt a new way of thinking about these things.  If you don’t like it, don’t buy it. But please watch your words, as they can and will cause more longterm harm than any $200 swimsuit.  

Photocred of this sweet face: @ashley_kwilliams on IG.

My hope is that we can raise our daughters to know that they can feel pretty, and confident and without being put down or shamed.  I hope our children will grow up to look at themselves and others, free from judgement and criticism.  
All pictures shared with permission, because these mamas know what’s up.

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2 thoughts on “About Babies in Bikinis

  1. Haley Koga says:

    I am with you 100% momma. I do NOT, nor will I EVER dress my daughter for other people. She likes an outfit, it makes her feel cute and happy, then by all means wear it. I don’t check her bathing suits to make sure no older men is going to look at her. Shame on the older men and women as adults, for acting like that. A sex offender or pedophiles are going to be that way no matter what a child in front of them. Rape is never okay, and it’s never the victims fault. Stop woman shaming and lee your heads out of the gutters to begin with. You want to dress your child like they are going to church everyday then so be it, who cares, more power to ya. But I do, so get it over and worry about your own kids 🙂

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